Archive for December, 2008

Out of the Mouths of Babes

Dec 28th, 2008 Posted in Being a Mom | 2 comments »

kansas-junction-city-011We’re a military family, and have often lived in the town just outside an Army post. While we were assigned to Fort Riley, Kansas, every time we drove on or off the installation, we had to pass through the downtown area, which had a row of strip clubs.

The kids were old enough to read, so it was hard to shield their eyes from signs that screamed “Nude Dancers Nightly,” or “Different Strippers Each Night!” I would try to distract them in some way every time we approached that area of town.

One of the clubs was called “The Top Hat Club,” and had a picture painted on its large plate glass window of a top hat, a walking cane, and folded gloves over the cane.

Our son, who was about 11 at the time, thought the picture was of a magician’s tools – with the cane as the magic wand.

He asked me so many questions about the place that I gave up deflecting them, and finally said, “Honey, I hate to have to tell you this, but that’s a place where men pay to see naked ladies.” He said, “WHY would they want to do THAT?” Totally flustered with the whole thing, I said, “I don’t know.”

All of a sudden, a knowing look spread across his face, and he said, “I know why men go there!

In horror, I said “You DO?”

My sweet boy said, “I get it now. They go in and pay their money, expecting to see a magic show, and the people trick them and show them naked ladies instead!!”

I was so glad that he had answered his own question in such a sweet and innocent way.

He’s 24 now, and we tease him mercilessly about it.

Consequence of Lying

Dec 28th, 2008 Posted in Being a Mom | one comment »

Saint Patrick may be the patron saint of Ireland, and March 17th may be the day for celebrating his miracles, but for our family that holiday will always remind us of the funny thing that happened on March 18th!

Our second child, Mark, was born on Saint Patrick’s Day. Every year I tried to come up with some special way to celebrate his birthday. Sometimes it was green icing on sugar cookies, other birthdays were toasted with green punch. His 6th birthday fell on a school day, however, so I settled for a store-bought cake, festooned with bright green icing, which we shared with his friends at daycare.

On March 18th, Mark had a physical exam scheduled, so I went to his school to pick him up for his appointment. I decided to take him home first, so we could quickly grab a bite to eat.

On the way home, my little guy (who couldn’t say his “R’s”) said, “Mommy, I left my backpack at dayKO (daycare) today, so my teachO let me walk to dayKO to get it. Then Miss Patty at dayKO let me walk with it back to school!”

I said, “Honey, that’s can’t be true! Those teachers would never let you walk all by yourself for a mile.”

“Oh no Mommy, I’m telling you the twuth! It weally happened!” Mark said sweetly, to which I replied, “Okay Mark, I’m going to call your teacher at school and ask her if this really happened.” All of a sudden, Mark got a sickly look on his face, and got really quiet. He whispered, “Don’t call my teachO Mommy – I WAS lying.”

The rest of the way home and halfway through lunch I think I said everything that’s ever been said about the evils of lying. Mark just listened, nodding his head, and promising he would NEVER lie again. As we finished lunch, I said, “Okay honey, go potty and we’ll head for your appointment.”

About five minutes later, I heard Mark yelling from the bathroom, “Mommy, come quick! Mommy, come quick!” Fearing that he had hurt himself in some way, I ran to the bathroom with my heart pounding out of my chest.

Mark was standing by the toilet with his pants down, pointing into the bowl.

“Look at my poop Mommy! Look at my poop! IT’S GWEEN!” Sure enough, his deposit was bright green, which made me think of the bright green frosting on the cake he’d eaten the day before.

I said, “Mark, you know why your poop is GREEN don’t you?

With big, remorse-filled blue eyes, he looked up at me, nodded his head slowly, and said, “Yes, Mommy, my poop is gween because I LIED!”

Two Thumbs Up for author T.L. Hines

Dec 23rd, 2008 Posted in Thomas Nelson Book Reviews | no comment »

I’ve had an opportunity to talk to the fiction publisher for Thomas Nelson, Allen Arnold, about my recent review of The Unseen, by Tony (T.L.) Hines. Arnold was gracious to call me and seek my opinion about the book, and to lay out his department’s goals and objectives for Christian fiction. We had a great chat, which left me with the sense that the publishing house is truly concerned about the work it produces, as well as consumer opinion. Arnold encouraged me to contact the author with my concerns, which I did in a series of emails.

I’ll post the email I received as Hines’ first response to my review, and then some excerpts from the enjoyable email conversations I had with him.  My intent is to enlighten you as to his philosophy of writing, to introduce you to a delightful Christian, and to let you know what can expect from his fiction.  Hines gave me permission to share our emails here.

Hines’ response to my review:

First of all, thanks for such a thoughtful and thorough review. It would be wonderful if all readers engaged with their books as much as you obviously do.

I’ll give you my view (which admittedly, you did not specifically ask for). Maybe you’ll agree with some of it; maybe you’ll agree with none of it.

In my town, there’s a man who takes a bullhorn to one of the busiest street corners every Saturday, and proceeds to yell the salvation message to all the cars at the stoplights.

I’m guessing most people would consider him a committed Christian. And if that’s his interpretation of the Great Commission, that’s what he should be doing. Trouble is, I think that’s the way a lot of we Christians feel about the faith as well. We think all Christians have to be out there on the battle lines (because we always seem to frame it in war terms, don’t we?), yelling the gospel at the top of our lungs.

But I wonder how many unsaved, unchurched people respond to those kinds of messages today. Maybe I should say: “respond positively,” because a lot of people think anyone who attends church regularly is a wingnut…precisely because the guys with the bullhorns get so much attention.

If you’ll allow me me to be blunt, I think the modern church has a tendency to create exclusive circles. We speak in Christianese, our sentences filled with “blessings” and “praise” and “callings” and “gifts” and many other words that are code to other Christians…but have no meaning to people outside our circles.

I think, in general, we need to be more inclusive. We need to stop speaking in our Christianese code, and use words that are meaningful to everyone. We need to realize actions speak louder than words, and therefore realize talking ABOUT Jesus–yelling through the bullhorn–is less important than showing His love.

On the flip side, also in my town, a certain section of the city (known as “The Heights”) has tried to get a community swimming pool for some years. The residents put the issue on a ballot, and had it voted down (partly because the whole city, and not just the neighborhood, votes on the measure). Last year, a neighborhood church said, “Instead of expanding our church, we’re going to build that swimming pool for everyone in the community to use.” They encountered resistance, of course. Some people thought they’d hand out tracts to kids using the pool. Some thought they’d force residents to come to the church, or sign up for a home visit, or…something. But no. They are adamant the pool is going to be for use by anyone, without any restrictions or proselytizing of any kind. They’re doing it because they see a need, and they are serving their neighbors.

And you know what? People are buzzing about it, because it’s the exact opposite of what they expect from a church. Some might say the church is missing a great opportunity to give kids a gospel message while they’re using the pool. But others (myself included) see an opportunity to bring people into the church to find out what it’s all about…because maybe their perceptions have been wrong.

I say all of that to not to argue, but to show you what’s important to me and my interpretation of the Great Commission. In my writing, I want to give people something they’re not expecting on many levels. A bizarre story, of course. Some twists and turns. And ultimately, a redemptive tale that isn’t filled with the traditional motifs we find present in a lot of Christian fiction.

Perhaps what I’ve written on my site does give the impression I’m denigrating “traditional” (for lack of a better word) Christian fiction. That’s not my intent at all, and I’ll look at changing the wording to make myself clearer. I love to see all kinds of Christian books on the shelves, because I think we need those books to serve and encourage all kinds of people.

[ he did change the paragraph I referred to in my review ]

Are many of my readers Christians? You bet. Probably most–and I’m thankful for every one of them. But many aren’t. I’ve spent the last several weeks signing books at Costco stores around the region, as well as Barnes & Nobles. I’ve given several talks at public libraries, where folks of all different backgrounds come to listen. I have no qualms about telling them I’m a Christian, and I work with a Christian publisher–and then I talk with them about some of the obstacles I face as a person writing faith-based fiction in a world that often doesn’t want to talk about faith. (It might also surprise you to know I’ve delivered a couple of sermons, and written non-fiction articles for Christian publications such as the “Conservative Theological Journal” and “Stand Firm” magazine.)

Just as importantly, many of my Christian readers have non-Christian friends who read books, and I hope they feel comfortable passing them along to those friends. I want to write books that have the potential to resonate with all of them. For Christians, certainly, all my books are tales of redemption, which is what God’s unfolding story is all about. For non-Christians, they’re tales of oddity and adventure…but also starting points for discussion. (You’ll notice we put discussion questions in the back of the book.) Like the church building an unexpected pool for the community, I want to build unexpected stories that have diving boards.

In the end, we may not agree. You may find what I do as tepid, and I can live with that; debate and discussion are healthy. Our basic commonalities are far more important than any differences of opinion we might have. We both serve the one and only true God, and we both long to one day hear the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” I look forward to someday celebrating that occasion with you, my Sister in Christ.

-Tony

My reply:

Like you, I am a bit afraid of the kooks who make loving Jesus look so weird for the rest of us. However, I feel it’s urgent we tell the message when we have opportunity, and before it’s too late. The example of the church and the pool is a good one; and I like how you tied it to your way of presenting God.

I don’t know if I’m spiritually blind to your tale, but I just don’t see God’s redemption in it. I see that he was “redeemed” by his co-worker. And I was wondering if they were going to stay in hotels together as they went off into the sunset, etc. I suppose I’m a concrete thinker, and I need the message spelled out.

Tony:

I’m not quite sure what Sarea did that could be read as redeeming Lucas; for that matter, I’m not sure what any person could do to redeem another. But certainly, she’s one of the catalysts on his journey. I think Lucas’s redemption is summed up well by Mad Billy Weevil, his angelic messenger: he becomes a person who looks and can see, a person who hears and can feel. Lucas discovers we’re meant not to live in isolation cut off from others, but in community with those around us. Being human is about being relational; being human is not about dispassionately observing the suffering of others (as the Creep Club and, frankly, our society, do), but by doing all we can to help the injustice we see. The moment he kneels at the front of the abandoned church to pray and the bird breaks free into the light, is symbolic of Lucas’s own transformation; he’s no longer afraid to be the person he was meant to be. The moment he refuses to kill his tormentor, the man who has made his life a hell since age six, is symbolic of Lucas leaving behind vengeance and hate and guilt. And the moment he sets off at the end of the story to find the springs that are so vivid in his dreams–the springs he visited in Great Falls as a young boy with his father and mother–promises to be a journey to healing waters, where he can be washed pure and reborn. He starts out as Humpty Dumpty, the ultimate broken vessel, but becomes whole by story’s end.

My reply:
My goodness, that’s why you’re the writer and I’m the reader. If there’s a sound for something going right over my head; it just happened. Thanks for taking the time to lay it out. I got the dove and the light part, but didn’t piece together Humpty or the rest. Lovely.

Thanks for engaging — probably a pain on your part, but fun for me.

When my husband was a plebe at West Point, he used to have to report to the upperclassmen so they could haze him. They would say “What are YOU LeGare?” and he would reply: “I am a wedge, the simplest of tools.”

Enjoy your Christmas and try not to think about “wedges” like me!

I love that wedge story…in fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if it ended up in one of my books at some point. Wedges are my favorite kinda people–the people, frankly, I usually write about in my books.

-Tony

Christmas Message

Dec 20th, 2008 Posted in Connection Group Notes | no comment »

Announcement (Luke 1:26-33Open Link in New Window)

By Gabriel – (28)

How does God normally announce what he intends? Scripture Rom 15:4Open Link in New Window.

Question (Luke 1:34-37Open Link in New Window)

Why me, why now, I am OK (34)

What task is He calling you to?

Repair relationship, issue invitation, practice Christian ethics at work

Acceptance (Luke 1:38Open Link in New Window)

Faith-based answer (38)

Examples of Noah, Abram, what’s in your wallet? Can you say same?

Confirmation (Luke 1:39-45Open Link in New Window)

By another believer (41)

Blessing of belief (45)

Have you ever confirmed or supported another believer in difficult times?

Can you testify of your own obedience of belief?

Celebration (Luke 1:46-56Open Link in New Window)                candle

Commune with saints (50-51)

Acknowledge His power (52-54)

How strong are you in your ability to recount His goodness and provision?

Pro-life Movie

Dec 16th, 2008 Posted in Ministry | no comment »

Scene from "Volition"I found this movie link at  ThomasUmstattd.com, and had to provide a link here as well.  This short film, Volition, is an extremely powerful message which tells the truth about abortion.  Watch it and tell me what you think.  And thanks for the information, Thomas!

The Unseen Book Review

Dec 16th, 2008 Posted in Thomas Nelson Book Reviews | no comment »

Unseen Christianity

It’s hard to categorize this book into a certain genre.  It could be called a techno-thriller; but then again it could be called spy fiction.  When I got further into the book I realized it had some cold war themes mixed in, so it might appeal to conspiracy seekers.  One thing is for sure:  it wasn’t Christian.  I guess this was the biggest surprise of all since it was published by Thomas Nelson.  It’s certainly not a “chick” book either; but I found myself unable to put it down.

Its author, T.L. Hines, calls this genre “Noir Bizarre,” which is an apt title for such a work. I think Hines has found his writing niche – very few could craft such a story.

The main character, Lucas, is an unfortunate loner who gets his kicks by secretly watching people.  But he’s no kook or peeping Tom – he only watches people in public places.  That bit of information alone puts the reader in a position of superiority – we know that if he’s a voyeur, (getting vicarious kicks from the stories he invents about people) that he’s surely a sicko.  But then we find out – we think – that he’s an orphan and had a terrible, lonely life.  This should excuse some of his eccentric behavior, shouldn’t it?  And then the reader wonders:  Were there really orphanages in Washington D.C. in the late 1970s and early 1980s?

If I had to rate it using the movie rating scheme, I’d give it a “PG 13,” for violence.  I was thankful that Hines stayed away from making his character a sex predator; but at the same time it was a bit unbelievable, because the main character’s voyeuristic behavior most certainly would  be mixed in with sexual dysfunction in the real world.

Hines is a master at getting his reader to think and strategize throughout the book.  He gives us just enough information to think we “get it,” and then dangles a piece of new information that throws us off track.  That makes the reading fun, and ultimately is what had me rooting for Lucas, the unlikely weirdo-turned-hero of the tale.  And I liked the people who liked Lucas.  His co-worker could be anyone’s good friend, and ended up providing an opportunity at normal life for Lucas.  But she shouldn’t have been his source of ultimate redemption.  That was my biggest internal complaint about the book.

I was specifically looking for something or someone in the story to point Lucas to the One who could truly save him from his unhappy and disjointed life.  There were several opportunities Hines could have used to tell readers the good news, but didn’t.  Again, since the book was published by a major Christian publisher, I expected to see some reference to Christ in its pages.  When I didn’t, I was sorely disappointed.  As Christians, aren’t we to give glory to God in all we do?   Apparently, Hines doesn’t think so.

Here’s what he says at his website about the lack of a spiritual message in his books:

“But if it makes you feel any better, I’ve heard from more than a few people who have felt my books aren’t “religious enough,” for lack of a better term. My faith is an integral part of who I am, and so the worlds of my books naturally reflect some of that. But not overtly so. Nowhere in any of my books will you find a big conversion scene, or a thinly-disguised sermon telling you to repent. I write novels, not tracts. And if you think I’ve preached at you in any book, let me know. I’ll buy it back from you.”

Is he saying that the skillful manner in which Francine Rivers weaves the gospel into her superb historical fiction is a sermon or a tract?  There are plenty of excellent Christian writers who use their talents to bring others to Christ without veiling the gospel at all.

The book was a great read.  The author’s tepid Christianity isn’t so great.

What a Mother Thinks

Dec 7th, 2008 Posted in Being a Mom | 2 comments »

I love you so much.

There is no way I can possibly put into words

how proud I am of you.

You’re absolutely beautiful.

Sometimes when our eyes meet,

it’s like gazing into a reflecting pool.

I see in you glimmers of my past.

Do you see in me hints of your future?

You are everything I ever prayed for.

I love you more than you will ever know,

more than you will ever ask.

There’s nothing I wouldn’t give for you,

nothing I wouldn’t do for you.

You are my daughter,

and I will always love you with a love so immense, so eternal…

I could never find a way to squeeze it into words.

by Robin Jones Gunn

I heard this poem on the radio several years ago, and it brought me to tears. Here’s the rebuttal poem, also by Robin Jones Gunn:

What a Daughter Thinks

My mother doesn’t understand me.

She never has,

and she never will.

:)


Bailey the Unknown Reindeer

Dec 7th, 2008 Posted in Just for Fun | no comment »

Bailey the Unknown Reindeer

Saw this at Renae Brumbaugh’s site and had to have it too!

December 7, 2008 1 Thess 1:1-10

Dec 6th, 2008 Posted in Connection Group Notes | no comment »

Connection Group December 7, 2008

Winter 2008-2009 Adult Learner Guide

Unit 1:  Remember Where You Were (1 Thess 1:1-3Open Link in New Window:13)

Dec. 7  When You Started Out (1 Thess 1:1-10Open Link in New Window)

Recognize God’s Work (1 Thess 1:1-4Open Link in New Window)

· In the Christian (vs. 4)

  • Faith Working            fhl
  • Love Laboring
  • Hope Enduring

· The Disciple – Defining Virtues (1 Cor 13:13Open Link in New Window – Faith Hope and Love Abstract-Concrete)

Trinity Examples

Faith – Working Disciples Step Out and Work!

James 2:18Open Link in New Window

Genesis 12:1-4Open Link in New Window (Abraham)

Luke 5:4-5Open Link in New Window Peter

Love – Laboring Disciples Obey!

John 14:21Open Link in New Window – Obedience

John 15:13Open Link in New Window – Sacrifice

Hope – Enduring Disciples Endure!

Romans 8:22-25Open Link in New Window

Ephesians 1:3-10Open Link in New Window

1 Peter 1:3-9Open Link in New Window

Becoming a Friend of the Faithful God Lesson 1

Dec 6th, 2008 Posted in Friday Night Group Notes, Lessons from Precept Bible Study | one comment »

Genesis Chapters 11:24-14

The first thing we learned was from Isaiah 51:2Open Link in New Window,  “When he was but one I called him, then I blessed him and multiplied him.”  Abram was all alone when God called him.

We then journeyed with him from Mesopotamia (Ur of the Chaldeans) to Haran, where he settled.  We learned in Hebrews 11:8Open Link in New Window that by faith, when he was called, Abram obeyed by going out to a place he was to receive for an inheritance, and he went out, not knowing where he was going.

Jeff made an interesting statement about this: “Faith overcomes skepticism.”  Jeff made the analogy to someone trying to promise something too good to be true.  Most adults take such offers with a healthy dose of skepticism, and disregard them.  Abram chose to believe God’s promises, and moved out in obedience.

In Genesis 12:10-20Open Link in New Window, We noticed that when Abram got into trouble in Egypt, he hadn’t sought the LORD in his decision making.  Marc asked Nichole what might have happened if Abram had included God.  Nichole realized that Abram might have left Egypt even more blessed, because God had already promised Abram many blessings.  Anne made the point that this is probably where Abram picked up Hagar, the Egyptian (Sarai’s maidservant).  Chuck made the point that if Abram was a faithful friend of God and messed up, then we have comfort knowing that Christ atoned for our sins!

In reference to Lot, we looked at Genesis 13Open Link in New Window.  Lonnie made the observation that Lot’s lust of the eyes contributed to his later downfall. In an earlier lesson, we learned that many sins are committed this way. We dubbed them the “Look and Took” sins.  See my blog on this.

Finally, we talked about Melchizedek, and discussed the possibility that he was the pre-incarnate Christ.  Our insights concerning him were from Genesis 14:17-24Open Link in New Window; Hebrews 5:5-6Open Link in New Window; 6:19-7:22; and Psalm 110:4Open Link in New Window.  In Genesis we learned that Melchizedek was the King of Salem, and brought Abram bread and wine (pattern of the Lord’s supper?). He blessed Abram, and blessed God.  He received a tenth of Abram’s possessions.  In Psalm 110:4Open Link in New Window, we learn that Melchezedek has a priestly order.  In Hebrews we learned that Christ is a Priest forever in the order of Melchizedek, that Melchizedek was a priest of the Most High God, that he was a King of Righteousness, that he was without father or mother, no genealogy, and not beginning or end.  He was made like a son of God, and remains a priest perpetually.  He was of a new tribe, not the Levitical priesthood.

Pam made the point that Melchizedek makes such a great bridge of understanding from the Old Testament to the New.  He is a pattern of Christ.

We were hoping Kay Arthur would shed light on this mystery in her discussion of the lesson, but she only touched on the discussion lightly.